Possible signs of being a bully (Olweus, 1993)
(These are not sure signs of a child being a bully. A child may be or may not
be a bully even if they do or do not fit into these categories.)
· The child teases repeatedly in a nasty way
· Along with teasing there is pushing, kicking, excluding, hitting, and
damaging of belongings of defenseless students
· Physically stronger than their classmates
· Desires to dominate or subdue other children
· Are hot-tempered and easily angered
· Oppositional and defiant to adults and may even frighten adults
· Seen by other students as tough and show little empathy for victimized
· Not anxious or insecure and generally have a positive view of themselves
· Engage in anti-social behavior at an early age
· Have support from at least a small number of students in the class
Tips for parents of kids who bully (Olweus, 1993)
· Make it clear to your child that you take bullying seriously and you
will not tolerate any such behavior in the future
· Work with your child in developing a set of family rules that have
specific punishment, excluding corporal punishment, for breaking the rules and
appropriate praise and appreciation for following the rules.
· Since bullying occurs when adults are not around or when they are not
aware of what the children are doing, you should get to know who your child's
friends are, what they are doing, and spend time with the child.
· Develop common positive experiences between you and your child and
learn more about your child's personality in order to gain the trust of your
child. This will lead to your child being more inclined to listen to you.
Help your child develop positive talents such as sports (football, ice hockey,
soccer) to enable them to use their aggression and strength in a positive way
and learn teamwork.
For more parents' resources on the topic of bullying, see our Resources